Hey there, future au pairs!
My name is Lucy, and in 2017, I embarked on an incredible adventure as an au pair in a foreign country. Moving abroad was one of the most exhilarating experiences of my life, but it was also one of the most challenging. Today, I want to talk about what happens to our brains when we make such a big move, how it affects our mental health, and what we can do to take care of ourselves during this exciting yet demanding transition.
When we move to a new country, our brains go through a whirlwind of changes. Imagine your brain as a sponge, soaking up new information every day. You're learning a new language, adapting to a different culture, meeting new people, and navigating unfamiliar streets. This constant flood of new experiences can be both stimulating and overwhelming.
Changes in the Brain
1. Increased Neuroplasticity: Our brains are incredibly adaptable. When we move abroad, our brains become more plastic, meaning they're better at forming new connections and pathways. This helps us learn new skills, like a new language or how to use the public transportation system in our new city.
2. Heightened Sensory Perception: Have you noticed how everything seems more vivid and intense when you're in a new place? This is because our brains become more alert, paying extra attention to our surroundings to help us navigate and adapt.
3. Emotional Rollercoaster: Moving abroad triggers a wide range of emotions. Excitement, anxiety, homesickness, and culture shock are all part of the package. Our brains are working overtime to process these emotions and help us adjust.
4. Amygdala Activation: The amygdala, a small, almond-shaped structure in the brain, plays a key role in processing emotions, especially fear and anxiety. When we're in a new and unfamiliar environment, our amygdala becomes more active, heightening our awareness and sometimes leading to increased anxiety. This is our brain's way of trying to protect us by keeping us alert to potential dangers.
The Impact on Mental Health
All these changes can take a toll on our mental health. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed, stressed, or even a bit lost during the first few weeks or months. Here are some common experiences:
1. Culture Shock: This is the feeling of disorientation when you're suddenly immersed in a different culture. It can make you feel out of place and disconnected.
2. Homesickness: Missing home, family, and friends is natural. It's a sign that you have strong bonds and connections, which is a good thing!
3. Stress and Anxiety: The pressure to adapt and perform well in a new environment can lead to stress and anxiety. You're not alone in feeling this way—many au pairs experience it.
Giving Yourself Time to Adjust
It's important to be kind to yourself during this transition. Moving abroad is a huge step, and it's okay to have ups and downs. Here are some tips to help you navigate this journey with patience and compassion:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's okay to feel homesick, stressed, or overwhelmed. Recognize these feelings without judgment.
2. Set Realistic Expectations: Give yourself time to adjust. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is your new life abroad.
3. Celebrate Small Wins: Did you successfully order coffee in the local language? Found your way home without getting lost? Celebrate these achievements, no matter how small they seem.
Making Mistakes is Normal
Making mistakes is part of the learning process. Whether it's mispronouncing a word, getting lost, or misunderstanding cultural norms, these experiences are all part of adapting to a new environment. Remember, it's okay to make mistakes—they're opportunities to learn and grow.
Talking with Other Au Pairs
One of the best ways to navigate this transition is by talking with other au pairs. Sharing your experiences, challenges, and successes can be incredibly comforting and reassuring. You'll realize that you're not alone in feeling disoriented or making mistakes. Other au pairs are going through the same thing, and their support can make a big difference.
Understanding the Brain's Workload
Our brains are working overtime when we move abroad. They're constantly processing new information, forming new connections, and adapting to unfamiliar environments. This intense mental activity can be exhausting, so it's crucial to give yourself time to rest and recharge.
Self-Care Tips
1. Stay Connected: Keep in touch with family and friends back home. Regular video calls can help reduce feelings of loneliness.
2. Build a Support Network: Make an effort to meet new people. Join local clubs, attend social events, and connect with other au pairs. Having a support network can make a big difference.
3. Maintain a Routine: Establishing a routine can provide a sense of stability. Set aside time for exercise, hobbies, and relaxation.
4. Learn and Explore: Embrace the adventure! Take language classes, explore your new city, and immerse yourself in the culture. The more you learn, the more confident you'll feel.
5. Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness exercises, like meditation or deep breathing, can help reduce stress and keep you grounded.
Using the Au Pair Dream Journal
The Au Pair Dream Journal can be an invaluable tool during your transition. Here's how it can help:
1. Planning and Organization: Use the journal to plan your days, set goals, and track your progress. This can help you feel more in control and less overwhelmed by the new environment.
2. Reflecting on Experiences: Take time each day to write about your experiences. Reflecting on what went well and what challenges you faced can help you gain perspective and learn from each situation.
3. Processing Emotions: Journaling allows you to express your feelings in a safe space. Writing about your emotions can be a great way to process and understand them better.
4. Tracking Growth: Over time, you'll be able to look back at your entries and see how much you've grown and adapted. This can be incredibly encouraging and motivating.
5. Staying Positive: Use the journal to note down positive experiences, things you're grateful for, and small victories. This can help keep your spirits up during tough times.
Final Thoughts
Moving abroad as an au pair is a life-changing experience. While it comes with its challenges, it's also an incredible opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Remember to be patient with yourself, embrace the journey, and take care of your mental health. The Au Pair Dream Journal can be a trusted companion on this adventure, helping you navigate the ups and downs with greater ease.
Wishing you all the best on your au pair adventure!
With love,
Lucy